bad mothering

yesterday afternoon i got a call from the school nurse, nothing unusual, i hear from her regularly with all 3 boys at the same school and ian hangs out there when he has his breakdowns. so she has ian in her office, also, as usual, and he was having a breakdown. the lunch ladies had run out of salads so he wasn't going to eat anything else. he broke down crying because he couldn't have salad and had to see the nurse. i get yet another call an hour later to talk with ian out of ears range. he told the lunch ladies and the nurse that he hadn't eaten for 3 days because the school was always out of salad and we don't have any money or food at home. the nurse wanted to make sure we were okay and let me know about the programs available to us. my kids are probably the best fed in the town, they always have food and i did give them lunch money. it costs 40 cents for lunch. i made their lunches tuesday and i cooked their breakfasts monday and yesterday. they had cereal and yougart tuesday. not only that, but ian comes home and makes himself meals in the afternoons after school. usually vegetable soup or pot pie, sometimes eggs. he is so not starving. i let the nurse know she was being taken advantage of and that ian is more than capable of making the choice to eat what is available or to go hungry. i could have died. happy bad mothering for me.